Last week, I had not quite a motivational speech, and not quite a lecture either. It really was a conversation about life. By my Managerial Accounting professor. I would have posted this the day of, and shown you the raw interpretation (I was writing about it as the conversation went on, in fact) but I had a series of midterms to worry about.
He began by discussing impacts.
Then, he moved on to the golden question, the one that my Business Ethics class told me does have a right answer: How do you define success? What do you value most in life?
(This list is not at all in order, that’s personal)
Money matters. But it’s taboo to say so. Granted, it matters more to some than others, but it is not evil. So we don’t all have to love money. But we should definitely stop damning it on social media, in posts that we made from the newest smartphone. The next point in this list, he pointed out Service, but then said that he put it there because it makes him happy. And that was the point, to find and remember things that make you happy, especially during those times that happiness doesn’t seem very available.
Next, he said, you have to find the balance between what you’re good at, what you love, and what pays well enough for you to be able to cover your bills (because this is the real world). You yourself must decide what you need, what you want, and what you’re willing to do. He also recommended literally pinning each experience (degree, job, position) on this venn diagram.
Then, as he discussed his path through life, he inevitably came to marriage and partners. The message was clear, even if he didn’t explicitly say it. Find someone who is your equal–not who IS you, but who is your equal. Has the same values and motivations. And this will lead into finding someone who supports you, and will will understand and work with you.
But then he did circle back to family. At one point, he was divorced and had a girlfriend, but his children were with his ex-wife. He told us about waking up Christmas morning in London, alone, children in Texas and girlfriend in Italy. It was so that he could be in the office the next morning. And so, he told us, that was when he realized his values were scattered and woefully absent. So, his advice to us was that, even though our futures are still far-stretching and largely undecided, we must remember our values and never let them be accidentally sacrificed.